💛I switch the light on inside, so the 'real you' can shine softly from within. For over 20 years I've helped people shed the layers that aren't theirs, the job titles, the roles, the expectations, and remember who they actually are underneath. If something in you is done hiding, you're in the right place.
Why staying stuck feels safer than choosing
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Hi Reader She sat on the call and said: "I know I need to make a decision. I just don't know why I can't." We were 10 minutes in. She'd been circling the same decision for months. Talked it through with friends. Journalled. Made pros and cons lists. Still stuck. I asked: "What happens if you don't decide?" She paused. Then quietly said, "Nothing changes. I stay exactly where I am." "And how does that feel?" Another pause. Longer this time. "Safe." There it was. Realisation she was stuck because staying where she was felt safer than choosing. It had nothing to do with not knowing what to do. That's what hiding often looks like. Safe behind "I don't know." After last week's email, I noticed something familiar. 24 of you clicked through to the Hide & Seek Sessions. One person booked. Some of you also bought the reflection guide I released on Thursday. Maybe you've completed it. Maybe it's still sitting in your downloads folder. Either way, it's the same pattern. Looking feels safer than doing. Knowing feels safer than acting. Waiting feels safer than choosing. But after doing this work for 20+ years, I can tell you that you won't suddenly feel ready. You won't wake up one morning with perfect clarity, not afraid and ready to go. You just choose anyway. The woman on the call wasn't ready. She was afraid. But in 45 minutes, we untangled it, because she stopped waiting to feel ready. By the end, she knew exactly what she was choosing, and why she'd been hiding from it. I have 4 Hide & Seek sessions available in January across 2 Wednesdays. After that, there's nothing until March.
45 minutes. £150. We catch where you're hiding and what the real you wants instead. One deep, honest session to see what's underneath the performance. My Dad used to say: "It's either important, or it's not. You choose." If you're done hiding, book a session and see what happens when you choose. Keep shining softly Andrea - Your Soulful Challenger |
Andrea Goodridge
💛I switch the light on inside, so the 'real you' can shine softly from within. For over 20 years I've helped people shed the layers that aren't theirs, the job titles, the roles, the expectations, and remember who they actually are underneath. If something in you is done hiding, you're in the right place.
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